It is totally normal to be tired – I mean, you’re a mom, you’re busy. The to-do list of things us moms do every day is exhausting to look at, let alone accomplish. But I’m talking to YOU, the mom who is so exhausted that you’re not sure how you’re going to get yourself out of bed because you can barely open your eyes in the morning even though you’re going to bed early every night. The mama who closes the bathroom door and takes a deep breath, and wonders if she closes her eyes for just a few seconds if she could get in a quick nap…yep, a nap on the toilet. The mama who isn’t sure if it’s pure exhaustion or if it could possibly be depression. Because since you’re on the verge of tears half the day it could be either. Or both.
I see you and you are not alone.
Did you know that loneliness manifests itself as exhaustion? When we’re lethargic, and we don’t want to do anything except sleep, we actually may need connection. I mean, if you are running off 4 hours of sleep and coffee s your current best friend then you might actually really be tired. But if you are getting at least 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night and you’re overall fairly healthy but still find yourself exhausted all the time, it might be time to call a friend.
I was shocked at how much finding a community and feeling included helped me feel like a human being again and I can feel it when I’m not well connected to my community too because the exhaustion begins to creep back in.
I am not an expert on this topic… trust me. I am going down this path with you, friend. I’ve learned that when that feeling of loneliness strikes if I’m not prepared and have a plan of who I’m going to reach out to, I tend to get consumed by it all over again.
Who is someone you can reach out to today? Do it right now.
For years I thought that if I was around my kids all day, how could I possibly be lonely? But as I’ve grown I have seen that loneliness, especially among moms, is an epidemic. It doesn’t have anything to do with the amount of time or the quality of time we spend with our kids. It’s a lack of connection and inclusion with our peers. It’s our responsibility to ourselves and our families to make a change. It’s worth it & you are not alone.
If this isn’t you but someone came to mind when you read this, reach out to them. They need you, they need your friendship, and they need your prayers. Sometimes just knowing someone is thinking about you can make a huge impact.
If you think that you may be depressed, please reach out to a professional for help. Start with a functional medicine doctor and get some labs run and then find a therapist who you can talk to. You weren’t meant to do life alone, friend. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it!