How to Self-Regulate Your Nervous System (From a Biblical Perspective)

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Learning how to self-regulate your nervous system is one of the most important—and most overlooked—keys to healing, especially for Christian women who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like they’re constantly overthinking everything. If you’ve been crying out to God for breakthrough but still feel reactive, exhausted, or disconnected, this post will help you understand why—and what to do about it from a biblical perspective.

Have you ever thought, “Why am I always on edge? Why do I overthink everything? Why do I feel so stuck—even when I’m praying, trying, and doing all the right things?”

You’re not the only one.

I hear it all the time from Christian women:

• “I feel stuck.”
• “I’m exhausted but can’t rest.”
• “I feel like I’m constantly spiraling, and nothing helps.”

Here’s the truth: your nervous system might be the thing that’s actually keeping you stuck—and no one in Christian circles is really talking about it.

Let’s change that.

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What Is Nervous System Dysregulation? And Why Does It Matter?

God created your body with built-in survival mechanisms. One of the most powerful is your nervous system—it keeps you safe, alerts you to danger, and helps you respond to stress. But when your nervous system stays in survival mode for too long, it gets stuck.

This state is called dysregulation, and it can show up as:

• Chronic stress and anxiety
• Constant overthinking and indecision
• Trouble sleeping or feeling rested
• Snapping at your family
• Feeling disconnected from God

And yes—feeling spiritually stuck, even when you’re doing everything “right.”

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My Story: The Cost of Chronic Dysregulation

For years, I didn’t understand what was happening in my body. I was a single mom building a business, raising two daughters (one with PTSD and the other with ADHD), and trying to be everything for everyone.

The stress never let up.

Eventually, I was diagnosed with three autoimmune diseases and Epstein-Barr Virus (EBV)—all triggered by chronic stress and years of living in a dysregulated state.

My digestion, hormones, adrenals, and immune system were completely out of balance.

And the worst part? I was still trying to fix it with mindset shifts, to-do lists, and more spiritual effort. But what I really needed was to help my body feel safe again.

How Constantly High Cortisol Impacts the Entire Body

Let’s talk about what happens when your nervous system stays in survival mode for too long—because this is where things get real.

When your body thinks it’s in danger (even when it’s not), it releases cortisol, your main stress hormone. Cortisol is supposed to help you in short bursts—like slamming on the brakes or running from a threat. But when it stays elevated for too long, it throws off everything.

Here’s what that looks like in real life:

• Weight gain and inability to lose weight (your body is storing fat for “famine”)
• Nutrient deficiencies (especially magnesium, which is depleted by stress)
• Chronic inflammation (hello, joint pain, bloating, and fatigue)
• Insulin resistance and blood sugar spikes
• Hormonal imbalances (irregular cycles, low libido, mood swings)
• Autoimmune flare-ups or diagnosis
• Weakened immune system (you get sick more often)
• Gut issues and food intolerances (digestion slows in survival mode)

If you’ve ever said, “I’m doing everything right and nothing is working,”—this might be why.

Your body isn’t failing. It’s doing exactly what God designed it to do… it just needs to feel safe again.

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How Trauma Affects Your Nervous System

So many Christian women say, “I don’t have trauma—I wasn’t in a war.” But friend, trauma isn’t just about what happened. It’s about how your body is responding to what happened.

Let’s talk about 2020.

It was a global traumatic event.
Job losses. Health fears. Division. Gaslighting. Control.

My nervous system—already on high alert from years of survival—recognized that gaslighting instantly. I knew what it felt like. The panic. The shutdown. The deep sense that something was off.

Your nervous system remembers what your mind tries to forget.

That’s why you can’t “think” your way out of chronic stress. You have to regulate.

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Move Gently and Eat What God Created

When your nervous system is dysregulated, intense workouts and strict diets can actually make things worse.
Yes, you read that right.

Your body is already under pressure—adding more stress (even good-intentioned stress) can push it over the edge.

Instead of pushing harder, try moving gently:

• Go for a slow walk while talking to God
• Dance in your kitchen with worship music playing
• Do some light stretching or mobility work

These movements help your body release stored tension and reset your nervous system—without flooding it with more cortisol.

And speaking of stress…

Your diet matters more than you think.

Sugar, processed foods, artificial dyes, caffeine, and alcohol can all keep your nervous system on edge.
But foods that are alive—whole, God-made, nutrient-dense—calm your body down.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Just start simple:

• More color on your plate
• More water throughout the day
• Less red dye and less sugar

This isn’t about restriction. It’s about restoration.

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What Is the Vagus Nerve and Why Does It Matter?

You might’ve heard people talk about “stimulating the vagus nerve” and wondered, what in the world is that?

The vagus nerve is one of the longest nerves in your body—and it’s a major part of your parasympathetic nervous system (the part that tells your body it’s safe to rest, digest, and heal).
When you gently stimulate the vagus nerve, you help your body move out of fight-or-flight and into peace.

Here are a few simple ways to activate it:

• Deep, slow breathing (especially with extended exhales)
• Humming or singing worship music
• Cold exposure (like splashing your face or using a cold washcloth)
• Gargling water or prayerfully chanting Scripture
• Laughter and intentional rest

But here’s the warning no one talks about: If your body is very dysregulated, even some of these tools can feel overwhelming at first. That’s okay. Go slow.

Start with what feels nourishing—not triggering.
One breath. One verse. One worship song at a time.

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How to Self-Regulate Your Nervous System as a Christian Woman

You were never meant to white-knuckle your way through stress or carry burdens that break your body down. That’s not what peace looks like.

So how do you self-regulate your nervous system in a biblical way?

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Here are 10 faith-based, practical ways to begin self-regulating your nervous system today:

Nap or Rest – Jesus rested. So can you.

Deep Breathing – Try 4-7-8 breathing with prayer

Cold Water – Splash your face or hold an ice cube

Grounding – Get your bare feet on the earth

Stretching (not yoga) – Stretch gently while focusing on gratitude

Declutter a Space – Start small: one drawer, one table

Eat High-Frequency Foods – Think colorful veggies, fruit, and real protein

Quiet + Scripture – Meditate on one verse for 5 minutes

Sunlight – Spend 15 minutes in natural light every morning

Sing or Hum Worship – Activate peace through praise

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Why You Can’t Get Unstuck Without Nervous System Regulation

Here’s what I wish someone would have told me sooner:

You can’t experience peace, clarity, or breakthrough until your nervous system feels safe enough to receive it.

If your body still believes it’s in danger, your thoughts will spiral and your spiritual life will feel like static.

Regulating your nervous system isn’t just self-care. It’s soul-care.
It’s the foundation that allows you to actually hear from God, take action, and experience the peace and clarity you’ve been praying for.

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You’re Not Failing. You’re Just Dysregulated.

If you’re overthinking, procrastinating, or reacting in ways that make you feel ashamed—stop blaming yourself.

You’re not crazy, lazy, or broken.

• You’re dysregulated.
• And that can change.

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Ready for Breakthrough?

Listen to my latest podcast episode: The #1 Reason You Can’t Get Unstuck (And It’s Not What You Think)

Grab my free 3-Day Thought Detox Guide to start hearing God clearly again [link to guide]
Ready for deep transformation? Book a call with me to see of 1:1 Christian coaching is a good fit and we’ll walk this out—body, mind, and soul.

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You’re not stuck because you don’t have enough faith.
You’re stuck because your nervous system has been in survival mode for too long.

Let’s help your body feel safe—so your soul can thrive.

You’ve got this. And God’s got you.

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